What a long, strange, trip it’s been… Crazy times, my people. It’s like a washer on spin cycle, isn’t it? There seems to be a lot of people barely hanging on, and, then there are some who are just letting go… I would say both are necessary, but, I digress…
The planet has been around for millions of years. We’ve been here for a few thousand. There’s always been challenges to both face and overcome. But, when you have a perfect storm of challenges, like our global economic purging of ick, and the surfacing of a lot of sinister deals from–“Hey, where’s my money? –My insurance? –to: “Why can’t I take a plane without it threating to fall out of the sky? Or, damn dude, it was a job, no need to kill yourself and your whole family!” –You’ve gotta know who’s in control of your life.
It’s core-being time, people. And, if you don’t know what I mean, chances are you aren’t sure of whose in control of your life, either. This life-thing, it’s got a lot of twists and turns, but, no matter what, if you’re going to go along for the ride, you’d better know your center and live from it.
The situation the world is currently in has a lot of finger-pointing and blaming going around. But, not nearly enough accountabilty. The only miracle workers you’re going to find in all of this, are the ones you create within yourself. We forget, or ignore, that the world, the systems, are made up of individuals. And, while it is easy to say what “they” (who the hell are they, anyway?) should be doing to fix the problems, it’s also a way to deny the part you’ve played. Enough of being a coward, a follower, a complainer. Not for nothing but, those people don’t usally make it to the other side of problems. There’s too much energy wasted in looking outside themselves for someone to “save” them. Bad news: No one is coming! They’re too busy trying to hold themselves together.
So, who has the answers to what’s ailing you. I’d be more than happy to tell you. The answer is: YOU. We’d all like to pretend we don’t hear our own conscience in a quiet-scream, pleading with us to stop pursuing the rapidly approaching dead-end of a situation. But, come on, let’s be grown ups–you hear it. You know when you’ve made a decision that’s going to take you further away from your goal. “Oh, but, it’s so hard to change…” Really? So, is it easier to navigate a dead-end?? I mean, it’s called “dead end” for a reason. It means: you’re done, there’s nowhere left to go.
I had a friend get laid off from that “bull” investment bank last week. It’s funny because when he was only an intern there, I knew he wasn’t banker material. He was too thoughtful, too sensitive. He told me he had been a philosphy major in undergrad. And, then got a MBA in Finance. Why? His answer: Money. And, now…there is no money, because there is no gig. If he had pursued his passion, rather than gratifying his ego, perhaps he’d be pursing a career in the social sciences, therapy, or collegiate teaching. Cause come on, times like these, therapist are going to make a killing!
My friend is no different than a lot of people. They think temporarily selling out their core-being, will somehow get them ahead quicker. Perhaps they are in line for entrance into the states of insanity and depression, because you gotta know, that’s where you’ll end up, when you deny who you are and what you’re about. Inner-conflict has got to be the worst war ever. Why??? Why do that to yourself? Why cause that kind of damage, that you may never have the wherewithal to recover from? For what? Money? Recognition? Fame? Acceptance? From who??? People with the exact same affliction (aka the majority of the world). See??? There’s no winning in that approach. There’s no pleasing others, making them happy, or making them accept you.
I am a happy person. To my core, that’s who I am. Sure, there’s the normal moments of grrr… But, even those are short-lived and well, slightly giddy. But, I think one of the keys to happiness is knowing who you are, and being in love with you. Seriously… I let go of inner conflict. I let go of keeping up with a society I’m not too crazy about. And, I definately stopped measuring myself by someone else’s standards. Life will throw curves, twists, and whatnot, but, you’ve got to choose to stay centered and true to yourself no matter what. You’ve got to be the one calling the shots.
“This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.”
Hamlet Act I: Scene III– “The Bard”
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