I have amazing friends. I like to think of them as gifts to myself. When I need a different point of view, or need someone to see where I have a blindspot, I have a friend there to tell me what’s what.
I’m not talking about friends where they tell you what you want to hear, or who are on your side to a fault. But, a friend who will be there to tell you the truth, even when you don’t want to hear it.
One of my best girlfriends has been with me since we were 17. The other my roommate from college. And, then there’s the guys… I don’t know why, but, I have several dudes that I’m really close to. Which comes in handy when I need a translation of male speak, or thinking. And, no, they aren’t sugar-coating the truth either. I love that about all of them. “Straight, no chaser”, that’s how I believe friends should interact with one another.
I’m not good at small talk, it kinda reminds me of dancing around a pink elephant. The more you don’t talk about what’s really going on, the bigger the elephant gets. Plus, I don’t like wasting time, there’s so much to do in one’s life, why waste time doing things that mean nothing, and being with people you’d rather not know?
I have at least one friend who reflects apart of me. The rocker, the fashionista, the hippie, the protestor, the southern belle, the philosopher, the artist…and most times, those things are blurred. I think I learn a lot about myself from my friends, things I’d never know without them being a mirror in which I might glimpse my reflection–it’s very cool.
There are so many people out there who say they have friends, but, when things are icky, realize that they didn’t after all. I can’t say I’ve had the experience myself. But, I think the secret it this, if you want to have good friends, you’ve got to aim to be one.
Love Peace Happiness N One,